I like having control of my privacy. I like it a lot.
I don’t mind sharing about myself as I get to know people. I don’t mind opening up to people in an organic way. I share, the other person shares, and a personal or professional relationship develops. I’m not secretive at all when I’m having a face-to-face interaction with someone, even if that person is new in my life. That said, I absolutely hate the idea of someone I have just met going online and searching for my name. Do you want to know something about me? Ask me. I won’t mind. I enjoy a good conversation. But asking Google? That thought creeps me out, probably way more than is rational. I want to be known in a human context and not a digital context.
I am at a new job, and have had a number of co-workers become my “friends” on Facebook. I have mixed feelings about that. Do I want to build friendships? Absolutely! I enjoy their company, and we are in the process of building real relationships; at the same time, I find it a bit odd and more than a bit uncomfortable to give instant access to all the photos from my past few vacations to every person I meet. I find it equally strange to be able to see so much about what they were doing a month or a year before I met them— or even what they are having for dinner tonight! In some bizarre way, I think I might treasure things more if I hold them a bit closer to myself instead of having them be public.
I also strongly value being able to change my opinions. What I think personally, and professionally, is different today than it was a few years ago. I hope that my views continue to evolve in the future. That is one major reason for why I don’t have a personal blog. To speak truthfully, I’m still not really embracing having this blog either. What seemed like a good idea for my final project for Course 1 already seems inadequate to me now. Sure, I’m in these courses to grow professionally, so not everything needs to be perfect now. I know that, and I would hope that others who look at this blog know that too. But the part of me that values privacy also thinks that I grow better when I can wrestle with ideas alone, and not have to worry about who will read my thoughts.